Love at first sight?

Do you believe in love at 1st sight?

Do you think love is something that happens instantly ? Or do you think it’s the day in day out with a person that makes you fall in love with their weird habits, the way they scrunch their nose when they dislike something, the way they wait for you to understand their humor, the way they understand your silence, the way they say hurtful things but not mean a single thing about that, the way they ouch when you are hurt.

Do you think love happens in a moment or is it infinite moments put together, where you look at that person and sing in your heart “ohh how much I love this person”

When I was younger my perception of falling in love was more like a storm, it will turn my life upside down, I’ll hear guitars and pianos and I’ll be in la-la land.

But as I have grown and matured, I believe, very strongly, what love will do for you is anchor you. It’ll bring a calmness to the storm you already are, the quiet to the noises you live with. It’ll seep in quietly and just stay. That will be my love, I will say.

Second chances!

We all are always scared of getting hurt, failing again, falling again, that we don't give ourselves second chances. But being an escapist, a scared person, living in comfort zone(avoiding hurt and pain), is that what you want? You want to settle for something mediocre in your life? Is that the reason you aren't giving yourself another chance, is that the reason you aren't taking risks, a leap of faith?

Then let me just tell you one thing to encourage you maybe. YOU ARE WORTH IT, You are a braveheart, a warrior, each one of us is meant to do great things in this life of ours.
So why not do it? Why not take the chance and just go for it. The worst that can happen is that, we might fail, that's it right! But then we can always try again and we should, till the time we get what we want, we achieve what we are aiming for.

Never ever be afraid of failures, just learn from them. Learn from your own and other's experience as well. Never stop learning and just don't give up.

Stop not till the goal is reached.
Fight again, fight harder.

I never asked WHY

I never asked WHY,
I never asked for reasons, 
I just walked away from the place, where you left me, and walked away.
Still sometimes, my mind goes back to the same place, reliving those moments. 
Am I seeking the reasons now, 
Do I want the answers now?
No, now its too late, 
too late to go back and seek anything. Its all buried. Deep within. 
Its too late now, because I am too happy, happy in the world I have built without you, a stronger me, a more sensible me, keeping my sensitivity alive. I let me live.
But, the heart, it still wanders and the mind, the mind still wonders.
That's all a part of the game, the game called Life, people come and go, you'll learn and grow.
So what? Life will still go on, at a new pace and time, with a new face and storyline.
It will never go back to that place, from where you left and we walked away.

Advance new year wish!

I am wishing new years in advance because there is a reason, the reason being that today is the last day of this eventful year 2015.
So I just hope you had an amazing year and you learnt a lot of new things, you had good experiences, you met new people who motivated you, made you better beings.
But that's like just one side of a coin right? (Heads lets say, i'll not go into the statistics of it all though:p)
So there has to be a tail for an unbiased coin, that means the downs and lows of 2015, the sad, frustating moments, meeting the wrong people on whom you wasted time etc etc, right? Now this is the reason I am messaging a day before, because in these last few hours of 2015, I want you to leave them behind, the people, the moments, the failures, everything that tried to pull you down last year. Just leave them behind, burn them in the heaters/angithi/kitchen ki gas :p
Keep the lessons you learnt with you though, so that you dont make the same mistakes again. Forget everything that made you feel you cant(do something), just remember one thing you have fought and won so far, you'll win this battle too. There is nothing in this world that is beyond human capability, people reached moon yaar, exam toh paas kar hi lenge, uss stupid ass insaan ko bhool hi jaenge, woh ladai toh hum jeet kar hi dikhaenge.
You have survived, you are a warrior and god gives his hardest battles to his best warriors. So remember you'll win this one too. Just leave behind the negativities and negative people in 2015 and move forward with your head held up high and with a happy smile on your face to 2016.
Happy happy new year and may god fulfill all your wishes and give you the strength to work hard to make your dreams come true.

I don't know where I go every night, when I close my eyes and drift in the dark abyss. But I somehow know in my unconscious consciousness that its some place safe because you are there with me in the black and white's.
I know its happiness, more or less.
Because you are the light.

sonder

n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.



The first time I felt sonder was when I was having a solo lunch at Mc Donald's waiting for my forever-(late)-bestie to show up and have our regular gossip session at the same spot, so naturally i was saving a seat for her, with all the hawk like people lurking around, waiting for me to vacate the place and leave. Among the hawk was a person who decided to not sneak around and be a man, so he approached me and asked if he could take the seat and eat the meal. As it was rush hour and honestly I appreciated the guts of this guy, I allowed him
Minutes passed by and sonder happened, I started thinking how we, two strangers who have never met before and will never meet again are sitting in front of each other, having our meals. I wondered what life he had, what kind of a person he must be, what are his dreams and ambitions, what made him come here all alone to have his meal, is he happy with his life, has he achieved what he has wanted to, and blah blurr bloo my head went on and on and I started smiling. We both were having the lunch at the slowest speed possible
because had to save the seat na :p
Then finally my inquisitiveness won and I asked if he was a student, cause he looked pretty young, he replied that he was a lawyer by the day and an automobile engineer by the night, I was so impressed to here that, that at such a young age he was doing something with his life which most of us don't because we are all so distracted. Then we had a conversation about random stuff till my friend came and then he left. As soon as he left my friend shrieked in a mocking way, asking me the details and I just said he was a stranger.

This story was just a example of this word Sonder, which we all have felt at some point of time. Like we are the extras in somebody else's movie. Like seeing this cute person in the car next to us at a traffic signal or like an old uncle outside a bank or maybe the aunty we see doing yoga every morning at the park etcetera etcetera. We wonder how their life is, how happy/sad they are, maybe they want to talk to someone, vent out their anger, share their happiness, tell a story or just talk to a complete stranger because they dont want to be judged(because strangers dont judge, because maybe strangers are sometimes better than friends), because they know this is the first and the last time you'll ever meet this person.

So whenever you are that person in the background, sipping coffee and eating banana cake and you feel sonder, I would say go talk to that stranger, know about them a little bit, maybe they need to talk, maybe you'll make a difference in their lives, maybe you'll give them hope at that point of their lives when they need it the most , maybe, just maybe. Or maybe they end up doing all that for you. You might never meet them again, but your essence will always stay with them,maybe that person in the background becomes a beautiful memory for them :) .

Maybe, just maybe.

They come and they go.
That’s the truth of life.
There’ll be people who’ll make you believe that they’ll be there for you forever but believe you me, nobody does stay forever. Everybody who comes into your life, come with a time limit. Whether you loved that person, whether that person was the best friend ever, a guide or a teacher or anybody who made your life beautiful.
They stay, complete their mission in your life and leave. But no doubt they give you some of the most memorable days, most cherishing memories, happiness of a kind that wont ever come again except ofcourse from that very person.
So here comes the word of attachment. You get attached to the person, they become so much a part of your life, you cant imagine your life without them. But once they leave the only thing that remains is the attachment. You learn to move on, keep going on with life, living it.
You always survive, because somewhere down inside your heart you know this reality that the concept of forever is a fallacy. All you have in this life is you yourself. The only person who’ll be there with you no matter what is you.
Remember this whenever you feel you are alone that"I’ll always be there for me, when I need me".
So love the ones in your life till the time they are there and while they are there don’t think about the future or the time when they wont be there. Live with them I’m that very moment and create beautiful cherish able memories.